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How kittens can lead to doing your administration

To my own surprise, I just realised that I’m working on my November project. How did that happen?

First of all I blame the cat. She’s moved her kittens upstairs, and stressed me out endlessly by dropping one of them down two flights of stairs. Then she the chose an impossible place to put them. I put them in a box instead, and I’ve been spending the whole day upstairs to check if everyone is doing okay. So far I seem to be the only one who’s stressed. There’s lots of napping going on. (… are they warm enough in this room? Does everyone get fed? Why has she put one of them aside from the others?)

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There seem to be two lucky things about this:

  1. I got bored and decided to work on my administration
  2. The anxiousness about the kittens left no room for other stress.

It was more than a coincidence though. Yesterday I realised what I needed to get back on track with the project:

  • Go through each and every pile to see if there’s administration on the year 2016 in there.
  • Put 2016 in a separate, clearly recognisable box.
  • Create two other boxes, to make sorting through the big piles fast but effective. One box that says administration older than 2015. One box that says other things to archive.

So I freed up some space to put the boxes in a place where they are easy to reach, and grabbed some piles. Meanwhile keeping an eye on the kittens and the cat. The sorting went quickly. One reason was that I found much stuff that was half sorted already. Another reason was that the three boxes worked perfectly!

 

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All my careful observation made no difference for the kittens. Mum has just again dragged them to a spot where I don’t want them. She wins, for now. I have a customer coming in half an hour. I’ll go and brew some coffee, let the cat have her way, relax a bit, and enjoy how much I got done today! Oh, and thank Lisa for writing this book, for it sure helped my thought process yesterday: http://less-stuff.co.uk/product/piles-to-files-paperwork-book/

 

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Procrastination by overwhelm?

I was on a roll writing blog posts on the drama triangle and its links to procrastination. Now I’m off the roll… I’d love to continue writing the next blog posts, but I can’t. Not yet. Here’s what happened:
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I know, crappy picture. But is does show the back of our cat, and her five newborn babies. They’re so small!

I’ve never been around a nest of kittens before. I’m mesmerised, exhausted, worried, in love… A plethora of emotions (finally an excuse to use the word plethora) I’m enjoying it lots, but one things is for sure: I can’t think straight. Which means the blog posts will have to wait.
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It turns out I have a temperature too. So maybe it’s not the kittens, maybe it’s the flu. My inner critic often tries to whip me into productivity. This morning, in persecutor mode, it said things like ‘You’re weak. Kittens are born all the time, that’s no reason to not work. You’re a wimp, to let all these emotions get to you.

After that, my inner victim (in terms of the drama triangle, hence this choice of words) came through: ‘But only slept three hours yesterday, I’m still exhausted. I’m in overwhelm from all the emotions. And more excuses to not listen to the persecutor and create some space. The inner rescuer concluded: ‘It’s impossible to work now’, and provided time off.

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I know what procrastination from overwhelm feels like, and this wasn’t that. There was also a part of me that said: ‘Most things don’t matter today. Enjoy the miracles of life, take care of yourself, the rest can wait.’ I’ll check those thoughts against the winners triangle. Do I have a point?

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The winner’s triangle subsitutes the victim role with vulnarability, the rescuer role with caring, and the persecutor role with assertiveness. If I apply those to how I feel today:

  •  I’m tired and filled with emotions. Vulnarability in this moment means to simply accept that, not fight it, deny it or judge it.
  •  I’m tired, filled with emotions, and I want to get some things done. Caring means taking all of those seriously, and finding a way to take care of all of those. I can get rest, take it easy AND get things done that matter today. Like buying bread for lunch. And getting this post done – but taking a break when I need one, like now.
  • Assertiveness: taking that break as soon as I wrote ‘now’. Going to the nearby supermarket for bread instead of the bakery a bit further. Finishing this post now, and ignoring spelling and lay out. Also: promising I won’t write again until my temperature is back to normal 🙂

Looks like the winners triangle helps my inner adult to get her job done. (I’d provide a link but I can’t find it quickly enough. Click on the tag when you want to know more about the idea of an inner adult)