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To do or not to do


I’m going to make fool’s resolution today: to complete both National Poetry Writing Month (#NaPoWriMo, #GloPoWriMo or #AprPAD) and my administration project with the many Piles Of Doom.

The fool part is not that it’s an April Fool’s joke. It means that it’s probably not foolproof to try and do both. But #NaPoWrimo brings a lot of inspiration, connections and fun each year, so I don’t want to miss out on that. And my darn administration is still the project I blogged about during National Blog Posting Month which I never got to finish. I used to be quite allright in doing my administration, but since a couple of years it brings out the worst in me.

I guess I know how to deal with my foolish plans: values, boundaries, keeping an eye out for the drama triangle, taking care of my inner child. Still I fear I might drown. I’ll probably need to revisit every post I’ve written during November (or since), to remind me that I CAN do this. Maybe some of them can be useful for you too, whether you’re in on #NaPoWriMo or your just trying to get something done.

Wish me luck!

If you’d like to follow my creative endeavour, here’s the link to my blog: Unassorted Stories

National Poetry Day Freedom poems part 2: Unprofitable by Van Son Coaching

Bron: National Poetry Day Freedom poems part 2: Unprofitable by Van Son Coaching

This one was written especially for National Poetry Day in the UK. My first ever try at writing about a given theme (freedom). All contributions to the event by Wordsmiths and Silence Breakers can be found on the I’m Not A Silent Poet website. Go and have a look. It’s a fabulous illustration of how different poems can be.

The I’m-annoyed-my-laptop-broke-down sale

And then it said ‘crack’… My laptop screen apparently did not wish to be attached to my laptop anymore. Currently it’s fastened with duct tape, which might last forever. Duct tape is impressive like that. But I saw shiny silver things come loose too, so I think it’s time for a new laptop. Which is a great excuse for a sale.

Summary: Buy From Do it Later to Do it Now in Ten Days for $7 and save $43 dollar. Or e-mail me before September 16 to get a discount on my coaching rates (50% off for up to three sessions).

The “From Do it Later to Do it Now in Ten Days” e-book is a printable course in PDF format. It’s full of worksheets, tasks, first aid kit for when you get stuck, and much more. I’ve made an extended version of my successful online course, and turned it into an e-book. The extended version has a bit more of everything: more background, more exercises, more tips and more fun.

What’s good about the eBook? It puts all the course materials in once place; easy to look through, ready for you to use again and again. It offers practical tips and tricks, but also invites you go beneath the surface and make some deeper changes. Procrastination is a symptom, not a cause.

This is what a reader wrote: “It’s SO good! Really full of worth, actual, quantifiable value, so well thought out, so many bases covered It’s flipping fantastic.”

Looking good! The book is 33 pages and that it looks really, really good 😉 I’m not beating my own drum here, it’s the wonderful work of the designer and the illustrator that I’m referring to.

The special rate you receive now is $7 (normally the course costs $50 in PDF form). It’s valid until September 16th.

Bonus: Facebook group. By buying the eBook you also gain access to the supportive Facebook group (unless you prefer to work alone). In the private Facebook group you can share what’s going of for you and get support. One of the lovely things about the group is that everybody in there knows procrastination from the inside out. And knows what it’s like to wrestle with it.

50% off coachings sessions if you want extra support. You can get up to three Skype calls for a reduced rate. Let’s say 50% off if you contact me before September 16 (2016, for the serious procrastinators amongst you 😉 ) I normally don’t do sales, so I want this to be a good one!

For $7 I hope you feel free to buy the book without thinking. Thinking could leed to procrastination (that’s what happens for me when I consider buying something.) You can get yours here.

The decision to get coaching might take a bit longer. Check out these pages if you want to know more about me or my coaching. Still, do buy the book before you distract yourself 😉

Positive psychology against procrastination

Oh, I’m excited! I’ve just read about new scientific proof that positive psychology works against procrastination. Or, to be more precise: elements of positive psychology can be really effective in dealing with procrastination. Tested on students who procrastinated on studying. Are you still with me?

It’s good news, especially for people who doubt they’ll ever be able to deal with their procrastination. It’s possible. And it can even be a positive

I’m also excited for more personal reasons. For one, the method they used really ties into my style of coaching (co-active coaching). Looks like I’m doing the right things! Which I knew, but it’s nice to know that science knows too 😉

Another one is that they included coaching in the scientifically tested approach. They combined a course with coaching. They expected the results would be better with, than without coaching. I agree!

So what works?
– Talking about your ideals, core qualities, positive treats.
– Letting you feel these instead of only talk about them.
– Distinguishing between the procrastinating part of you and the leader part of you.
– Learning how to harmonise thinking, wanting and feeling.
– Learning to be present with either your task or your procrastination

Of course these need to be tied together in a coherent approach to be fully effective. Though I guess any one of them could make a difference in any of your procrastination moments.

I can think of many exercises and worksheets I’ve created the last two years that were aimed at this. Even without knowing this research was done. As always, I don’t believe in one size fits all. I’ll keep working from other ideas and methods, especially the ones backed up by science. But I’ll also keep experimenting with my clients, wildly and creatively if we must. I always search for what works for that one specific person. And they defy science sometimes :)

I could talk about this for hours, but I’ve got work to do. The next Get it Done week starts next week, and I’m going to create some lovely new materials for it. Inspired by the latest research :)


Pair up with somebody who get things done


People who procrastinate tend to want to hide it. Many people are ashamed of their non-productive behaviour, and don’t want other people to know about it. Which is very understandable. Unfortunately, it doesn’t help. It might even make it worse.

Nobody likes to hide in shame, so the feeling invites distracting activities. Like watching funny clips on Facebook. Or checking your e-mail for interesting messages. Or playing a game on your phone. Anything that makes you think of other things. In the mean time, the work doesn’t get done. And the bad feeling secretly doesn’t go away. It just hides – to pop up later and ruin another day.

One way to step out of this vicious cycle is to pair up with somebody who get things done. Pairing up can be done in many different ways. You can create a work date for example, and agree to work next to each other for a couple of hours. Or agree to e-mail each other at set times, sharing what you got done. Or work together with them, and have them send you things that you will work on.

I picture you worrying that this won’t work. That you’ll only compare yourself to them, and feel worse. That could happen, I agree. So you may need to prepare your mindset for this. Talk to yourself that you don’t have to be as productive as they are. They are a different person, leading different lives and doing different things. Your aim will “just” be to end the vicious cycle. To get more done than you did before. To grow your belief that you can get things done. Even work that’s difficult for you. Remember: your productivity partner is your support, not your idol.

If you like to be around people who know procrastination from the inside out AND are breaking their vicious cycles, you may want to join Get it Done Week. The next one starts one June 1. The orange banners carry quotes from clients who’ve joined before. And came back for more 🙂

And yes, I needed to pair up with a productive person to get this post written. I tend to procrastinate at marketing. But my desiger send me some love banners, that I wanted to use straight away. It was all the motivation I needed.



Procrastination is (not) a habit

Often when you read about procrastination, the writer will say it’s a habit. I tend to disagree. I believe the tendency to procrastinate is (partly) innate. The part of giving in to the tendency, THAT’s the habit.

Procrastination often functions as a flight mechanism. It takes us away from things we don’t like or things we (unknowingly) fear. An unpleasant task lights up the same part of our brain as pain does. The instant gratification part of us stimulates us to give in to the short term impulse, and ignore the long term thinking. There’s always tomorrow…

But we all know tomorrow is always a day away, and it makes sense to get a grip on procrastination. To get back our freedom of choice. Do I want to do this now? Or is it REALLY better for me to do it later? If so, when?

If it’s a habit, it can be changed. When it’s a signal of something deeper going on (fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism, etc.) the signal can be read. The deeper issue can be addressed – whilst you get your work done, you don’t need to wait. But both take effort. There’s an eternal demand for quick fixes for procrastination. I believe the demand is eternal because quick fixes don’t last, or don’t work.

That being said, I’d love to hear what has worked for you. Are there quick fixes that help you out? Have you managed to change (some of) your habits? How?

The next Get it Done week will focus on your personal procrastination habit(s). It starts on May 4, and will end on May 11. You’ll have the weekend off – unless that’s a habit that doesn’t serve you 🙂

Get it done week

Imagine a project that you struggle with or that you avoid. Decluttering, art work, your administration, writing a book, self care, fixing a leaking roof, anything goes. And now picture yourself at the end of the week, stunned and satisfied. You look at your project and it’s done! Or at least you’ve made serious headway. How does that feel?

If this sounds good to you, please join Get It Done Week. The next one starts on April 7. You can sign up on the official Procrastination Coach website:

Hope to see you there!