Stop procrastinating on… sharing reviews
How many of us feel that sharing reviews is beating our own drums? Now that I have a book on Amazon, I have to learn more about self-publishing. How to do it in a way that works? One thing that can help your book is reviews, from other people than family and friends (Amazon policies forbid those).
Many resources give tips on where and how to get reviews. I may write on that later. But what to do when you’ve received your reviews? Do you let them sit quietly in your account? Or do you dare to share that people enjoyed your work? By talking about it, sharing it on social media, or in any other place that’s not the online shop itself?
If you notice judgments or negative thoughts around this idea, you may want to try this out. I’ve adjusted the How to get unblocked tool to help you challenge your thoughts. If this short version doesn’t work for you, you can try the woebot app, which helps you navigate through unhelpful thinking in an effective (and fun!) way.
A simple tool to help you challenge your thinking
- Write down the thoughts that hold you back
- For each thought, ask your self:
– Is this true?
– Is this thought helpful?
– Would I agree if my best friend had this thought?
– What would I think about this in 5 years
– What would [your favourite hero/role model] think?
– Or any other question that helps you challenge the thought
- Rewrite the thoughts at #1 into more helpful ones you’re willing to believe
Example: How to share a positive review
1. Write down the thoughts that hold you back
People will get fed up with me.
(I’m choosing just one thought for now, for the sake of the length of this post)
2. For each thought, ask your self:
– Is this true? – People will get fed up with me.
Some people might. Other people won’t care much. Many of the people that matter to me might even like to hear/read this, because they care about me and care about how I’m doing, and my book is part of that.
– Is this thought helpful? People will get fed up with me.
Obviously not 🙂 Thought it may inform me that I want to think about how I share it. In which circumstances, how often, etc. My Facebook friends will get fed up with me if I substitute our normal interaction for constant info about my book.
– Would I agree if my best friend had this thought? People will get fed up with me.
I’d stimulate her to find ways of sharing the reviews that are a bit outside her comfort zone, but still suit who she is. So she can try it out safely, and see what happens.
– What would I think about this in 5 years? – People will get fed up with me.
It would probably be something I hardly remember worrying about.
– What would [your favourite hero/role model] think? – People will get fed up with me.
My heroes tend to be people who don’t care too much about what others thinks of them, or did what they wanted to do and believed in anyway.
– Or any other question that helps you challenge the thought…
3. Rewrite the thoughts at #1 into more helpful ones you’re willing to believe
If you’re impatient like me, you may not even need this step by the time you’ve done one and two. In this phase, when I can choose between doing more writing, or simply doing it, I lean towards action. So I’ll copy and paste a review I received today right now, at the bottom of the post. I will add the rewrite as an example anyhow, to properly finish my example:
As long as I don’t exaggerate, it will be fine to share a good review and celebrate that I’m happy with it! I worked hard on creating this, and it’s nice to celebrate that people are having a good experience because of it.
And now for the lovely review I received today:
I absolutely loved Angela’s course. Having known for years that I procrastinate and having tried different methods – I can vouch that this one really works. I nowadays ‘eat a frog’ every morning, and I am getting so much more done. Often once I have eaten the frog, do I realize that it wasn’t that hard or complicated at all! Breaking your task down in chunks and telling people about it is a good one too. I tell my kids about it; they ask me at the weirdest moments whether I have actually done my task, so that makes me do it quickly so that I can give a positive answer, when the question comes my way.
Many thanks to Angela – and I hope to see more books from her!